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spotlight effect

You overestimate how much people notice your minor behaviors.

The spotlight effect is your tendency to feel that your actions are being observed by everyone.

Gilovich's work found that you are the center of your own universe, so you assume you are the center of everyone else's. While you fixate on your small mistakes or your specific choices, others are generally preoccupied with their own lives. You perceive a level of scrutiny that simply does not exist in reality.

You are far less interesting to others than you feel.

Where this comes from

Study
Thomas Gilovich, 2000
What the check found
The definition is accurate to established psychological literature, and the attribution to Gilovich (2000) is correct, though the language used in the claim is slightly hyperbolic.
Confidence
Solid, with limits

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